Yes I know, I’m back!

Here’s a great explanation to why I haven’t blogged: because I was too busy trying to make myself look good on the post. I have 10 half finished drafts on wordpress waiting to be posted, which includes also my lesson learnt from 2013 T.T I’m ashamed really.

But no matter… lesson learnt, and I am back! 

Will be posting my drafts in a few days time. Don’t be surprised if you find “lesson learnt from 2013” posted in the third month of 2014 keke



Yesterday morning (eeearly morning, as in 2AM), I was awaken by the constant buzz of my phone. Annoyed and simply couldn’t find any way to get back to sleep, I decided to wake up and check what the racket was about. Long story short, I found out that the buzzes were my friends who were informing that I was accepted as participant of Young Leaders for Indonesia McKinsey ! 

There is no way to describe just how grateful I am to be one out of the 60 chosen delegates. It’s amazing what reputation the program has and the impact its given towards our society. The thought of me finally getting to contribute directly towards a better Indonesia gets me really excited! 🙂 But that brings me to a  series of worries.

Firstly, you should probably know that the program runs for 6 months:

  • 3 forums held in Jakarta on late April, early July and late September 2013
  • Between the first and second forum, we are entitled to do an individual project that contributes to our own environment (~2 months)
  • Between the second and third forum, delegates are split into groups and are to do a bigger project with a bigger impact (~3 months)

The one great thing about the program is that delegates receive a big scholarship that covers all costs of the program, so financial needs are all settled. Secondly and most importantly, THE BOARDS AND SPEAKERS ARE AMAZING! From politicians and ambassadors, to company CEOs. Amongst them are Anies Baswedan, Sandiago Uno, HE Dinno Patti Djalal and Gita Wirjawan. In short, the program is awesome!!

But… back to my worries. So there are a couple of things that hovers on my mind:

  • I’m currently having that inferior syndrome. I know and I’m sure that my 59 new friends are aaawesome and dedicated, which makes me feel so nervous since we have to do speeches and discussions and stuff
  • I’m not sure what to do for my individual projeeect. I’ve got ideas but i feel nervouuusss
  • I have to give up not doing UGM’s academic obligation of doing community service, and postpone it til’ next semster 😐

But then again, creating changes for a better future is never easy. And nevertheless I am 100% sure that I will gain sooooo much experience and have great coaches to overcome all those obstacles 🙂

I am ready to contribute and unleash Indonesia!

It was a bright sunny day when we arrived at that Islamic boarding school: welcomed and given a warm yet formal ceremonial introduction. I remember ever so clearly. He had dark skin, barely any hair, and beautiful wide eyes filled with deep curiosity. What was his name? I can’t seem to recall. Let’s just call him Hassan for the time being.

Oh wait… I’m way ahead of myself. Let’s start from the very beginning: My visit to the Pesantren described above was part of a 30-day study on cultural and pluralistic issues. Together with a group of American students and 3 other Indonesian delegates, I gained hands-on experience on the theme: how complex it is, and how rich the world is of differences. Cool right?

So then, who is Hassan and what about him? Well I was just getting to that. During a sharing session with students and teachers of this school, Hassan bravely stood up, turned on the microphone, faced the unfamiliar visitors and  asked:

“why do Americans hate us (Indonesians)? Why do Americans hate Islam?”

A bold question indeed! I could hear the Americans starting to whisper, they were shocked. As for us confused Indonesians, we did nothing but share secretive looks at each other. We knew the question was coming. In fact it was only a matter of time before our own curiosity dawned on us. After what seemed like forever, an American delegate took the initiative to answer the crowd, it sounded something like this (and I rephrase):

“Americans do not hate Indonesians, nor do they hate Islam. As a matter of fact, little of them know where Indonesia is or what it is about. It is quite shocking for us to hear a question about something that never came across our minds.  We understand that after the 9/11 attack, misperceptions about Islam and Muslim Majority countries keep coming up. But that is the very reason we are here: to learn about Indonesia. Get to know the culture, the people, the policies…”

I felt like giving a standing applause (which was barely possible since I was playing the language interpreter). My dear friend took Hassan’s question and answered very nicely. You certainly do have to give credit for that! But really, Hassan’s sincerety of a child made me realize how big the effect of social assumptions are. Though sometimes when we assume, we assume way too much or even out of line. Many conflicts, both minute and major, are caused by miss communications and little understanding of the two parties involved. I am not saying that no one can be blamed in the so-called conflicts; even I take stand in the Israeli-Palestinian issue, the Syrian civil war or the election of DKI’s local governor. But in my humble opinion, the intensity of the problems escalate just because of public opinions and shout-outs. Whilst in reality, individuals of the society are just shouting, period. Many do not try to see from the perspectives of those they do not support. Thus hatred and prejudice becomes a problem.

Looking back at my experience back at the Pesantren made me realize how essential it is to get to know other cultures, religions and nations. This reminded me of an article I read on VOA Indonesia on August 7, 2012 entitled “Peserta Pertukaran Mahasiswa Pluralisme dan Keberagaman Budaya Bertolak ke AS” (Participants of Student Exchange on Pluralism and Multiculture Departs to the US – translation. Students of two very different countries came together and learned issues of democracy, pluralism and multiculturalism in Indonesia and United States. During the travel, the group was directly confronted by the reality of the two countries, good or bad. Meeting with some of Indonesia’s prominent figures, such as Professor Amien Rais and Alissa Wahid, visiting Yogya Hiphop Foundation and Inter-religious discussions — they certainly must have learnt a lot. Most importantly the delegates shall learn to see things from other people’s perspectives. Even when these “other people” are considered an arch enemy on TV. I guess what I’m trying to say is, these students are forced to come out of their comfort zone – their shell, their bubble – and walk in someone else’s shoes.

You certainly must be able to imagine how hard that is. But this attempt most certainly is life changing — and if it does help make the world a better place, why not? Maybe next time, we could do a similar program with… Ahmadiyah and Fanatic Islam? Or even Jokowi-Ahok and Foke! Let’s walk in other people’s shoes, people!

Over the past year I have immersed myself in an environment so different from my own. “Living outside my comfort zone”, as adviced by so many people. It has been a wonderful experience, meeting with incredible-famous-prominent people, befriend such caring and intelligent students, falling in love with a great and nice but very different man… ah, don’t know what else.

During the time I was “away”, my attitude to those in my original environment changed. I am truly ashamed to say that I became some sort of a stuck-up snob: fought with two of my best friends, became distant with the general society, became careless with academic matters, you name it. It wasn’t until a week ago that I realized how much was missed. My heart decided then was the perfect time to head home. The moment I silently declared myself back in Psychology, I was warmly embraced by my best friends, professors, seniors, juniors, even by work! I have forgotten how amazing home can be. I feel ever so grateful for everyone who received me the way they did even after the great mess. Thank you :’)

Now, I am fully recharged. Most importantly, I’ve learned a great lesson: there’s no place like home 😉  

The great lesson is learnt, and I am ready to climb-up again, this time without forgetting where I began, came from and belong

Yogyakarta, June 28 2012 [11:01]

These past few weeks I have encountered the word “moving on” so many times that it dawned me that it might just another be another fever, just like the word “galau” in Indonesian. A teenager thing ye know… :p

Well anyway, that’s not the point. Thing is, because of the redundant usage of the so-called-word, my not so humble but very curious mind started thinking of what it really meant and what people do in its implementation. Does moving on mean starting a new life and forgetting everything that occured in the past? or does it mean moving on is an act of being patient and sort of rubbing it all in until the sadness and anger of rejection or whatever dissapears by itself?

I have done a not very scientific observation on this “issue” and found several ways of coping strategies when people feel hopeless. The first is what I call “Just let it hurt as hell”. When something bad happens, people with this type tend to let themsleves get to the amplitude of their emotions and absorb all the pain: feeling ashamed of what they did, or crying themselves out because of a rejection or whatever. They tend to be masochistic and think that the faster they sink in what’s happening (though it hurts as hell) and let out all their emotions, the faster their acceptance. To people dealing with this type of person, it is sure not pretty. They get really petty and annoying. Letting out emotion sometimes mean confronting the person they’re having problems with and negotiating or asking for further explanation to what happened between them. In the end people of this type finish their problems thoroughly. To them, moving on is looking back and seeing that whatever happened in the past is just another story of life. Usually, they tend to laugh and make jokes about it; not being ashamed of whatever. To them the past is a high school teacher you learn from but can laugh about; someone you have to acknowledge whether or not you like it.

On the other hand, I’ve found people who perceive “moving on” as “nothing happened in the past”. This cluster tends to shut their memories down — sometimes consciously, other times consciously depending on a person’s personality and defense mechanism strategy. In psychology, this is known as either denial or repression. The good thing about it is you forget your problems in the blink of an eye. The downside is that in the long run, the repressed feelings or memories will come back. Worst, they come back at a very wrong moment. I had a friend who just started dating when all of a sudden he backed out the new relationship because the emerge of (unwnted) repressed memories of an ex girlfriend. Like “WHAT??”. So yeah, denying and repressing is a shortcut to heal a broken heart, but it only holds for so long.

I know, I know. I’m siding. As a (future) psychologist, that is not the right thing to do. But personally, as a human being who falls and gets hurt, shutting down the past is not an option. Whether or not you acknowledge the past, it’s always going to be part of be; be there with your every step; influence all your decisions. As confunscious would say: Study the past, if you would divine the future. 




Saat ini global warming tengah menjadi salah satu isu paling kompleks yang dihadapi para pimpinan negara dunia. Warning semakin gencar diteriakkan oleh para ahli seiring dengan membludaknya gas rumah kaca. Emisi Global CO2 telah mengalami lonjakan yang sangat ekstrim pada tahun 2010, menjadikannya rekor lonjakan paling besar sepanjang sejarah. Meski saat ini efek global warming belum terlalu terlihat, terutama di negara khatulistiwa seperti Indonesia, prevensi sudah harus dilakukan. Tanpa prevensi, bencana akan datang:Puncak pegunungan akan mencair, hutan-hutan akan menjadi padang pasir, terorisme meningkat, dan bahkan ribuan pulau Indonesia diduga akan tenggelam pada tahun 2030!

Upaya penanggulangan global warming telah dilakukan oleh PBB, melalui conference tahunan UNFCCC yang diikuti 194 negara. Juga oleh banyak Non-governmental Organization (NGO). Sebagai contoh, di Indonesia ada Tunas Hijau, yang mengadakan Ajang Putra-Putri Lingkungan Hidup serta kegiatan lain yang environmentally friendly. Namun demikian, kesadaran masyarakat secara umum (atau lebih dikenal dengan istilah grass root community) masih rendah. Padahal global warming sebenarnya merupakan efek piling dari kegiatan-kegiatan sederhana di rumah tangga. Maka sosialisasi alangkah baiknya dilakukan dengan media yang sedang booming atau paling banyak digunakan masyarakat. Sebagai contoh twitter dan facebook.

Earth Hour, sebuah kegiatan global yang diadakan World Wide Fund for Nature (WWF), mengajak masyarakat dunia untuk melakukan aktivias positif yang menyelamatkan bumi. Salah satu agenda utamanya diadakan tiap sabtu pada minggu terakhir bulan maret, yang tahun ini jatuh pada tangal 31 Maret, pukul 20.30-21.30. Ide ini pertama dimulai di Sydney, Australia, pada tahun 2007 lalu diikui oleh negara-negara lain di tahun-tahun berikutnya. Earth Hour Indonesia sendiri tahun ini memberi nama: “Ini Aksiku, Mana Aksimu?”, dan menantang masyarakat untuk lebih konkret dalam berhemat energi. Tahun 2012, 18 kota di Indonesia akan berpartisipasi dalam gerakan ini. Menggandeng pula mitra, mulai dari pemerintahan (Kota Surabaya, Kota Yogya, Provinsi Jawa Tengah), media (metroTV, radio Gadjah Mada, Jawa Pos, Suara Merdeka) hingga perusahaan yang juga berjanji akan menonaktifkan kegiatan berlistrik selama jam tersebut. Kegiatan ini terus digencarkan melalui social media, seperti twitter (@EHIndonesia, @EHJogja) dan Facebook. SocNet selain menjadi alat penyuluhan pada masyarakat tentang aksi 31 Maret, menjadi ajang masyarakat untuk berlomba-lomba memamerkan usahanya untuk menyelamatkan bumi. Seseorang dapat menuliskan aksinya lalu me-mention pada akun @EHIndonesia, @Ehjogja, atau EH lainnya untuk di retweet dan disebarluaskan ke khalayak. Dengan demikian orang lain juga akan terpacu untuk melakukan aktivitas serupa. Sebagai contoh akun @axyzadas bercerita bahwa ia baru saja menggunakan transportasi umum ke kampus – sederhana tetapi bermakna.

SocNet juga digunakan EH untuk mempublikasikan program-programnya yang lain. Pada 28/02 EH jogja bercerita tentang audiensi di Kepatihan dengan Sri Sultan Hamengkubuwono X dan calon Adipati Paku Alam. Sultan dengan senang hati menyatakan bahwa listrik keraton akan dipastikan mati pada 31 Maret 2012, dan Ngarso Dalem siap menjadi Duta Earth Hour Jogja 2012. Disamping itu calon Adipati Paku Alam, Kanjeng Bimo, juga bercerita tentang concern-nya akan lingkungan hidup serta pengalamannya menjadi seorang anak Pecinta Alam semasa muda. Harapannya, posting EH di twitter akan aksi seperti ini akan memberikan gambaran bahwa kegiatan-kegiatan ini dilakukan bukan hanya oleh masyarakat kecil tetapi juga oleh para penguasa. Sehingga lebih banyak orang yang berkenan menyelamatkan bumi ini.

Essay singkat tugas untuk kelas Antropologi Dasar Dr. Setiadi, FIB UGM


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